KANDAHAR (Pajhwok): Efforts at reconciling rival families have been recently intensified in southern Kandahar province, with tribal elders and religious scholars playing a major role in this regard.
Mohammad Akram and Haji Asadullah are the heads of two families that had been engaged in enmity for 15 years. The two families reconciled three months ago after mediation of tribal elders and religious scholars with the help of the Ministry of Tribal Affairs and Borders.
“We have started a new life, a better life after ending our enmity,” Mohammad Akram said, adding that not only their rivalry had ended, but they had become good friends.
“I thank God that now we are good friends. Remembering the past makes me upset that we committed many mistakes,”
His former foe Haji Asadullah said he was very happy that their enmity had ended and currently they live peacefully.
He said many people were killed and wounded during the 15-year-old enmity. “I don’t want to remember the unpleasantness of the past. We had committed very big mistakes. But now thanks God everything is fine and we have nothing in our hearts against each other.”
Religious scholars and tribal elders say people should not let trivial issues lead to big enmities and as a result suffer huge financial and life losses.
Religious scholar Abdul Qawi said in this regard: “Islam always emphasizes on politeness. No Muslim should enter a conflict with another Muslim because sometimes small disputes turn big.”
He said efforts should be made to prevent a dispute from happening, but if it happens, it should be quickly resolved in order to prevent major enmities.
Tribal elder from Maiwand district, Haji Hafizullah, said a dispute between two persons or families should be referred to tribal elders and religious scholars before it could escalate into a big tussle.
“We have stressed in every meeting that a problem when occurs should be referred to tribal elders and religious scholars before it turns big and continues for long years.”
Kandahar Borders and Tribal Affairs Department officials say they resolved dozens of disputes and conflicts in the province this year and reconciled f many families.
Mullah Agha Jan Akhund, director the department, said they resolved 55 conflicts and enmities in Kandahar this year including enmities that had been going on for more than 20 years.
Officials say they have intensified their efforts at resolving enmities and tribal leaders and religious scholars have been playing an important role in this regard.